The Dating Scene: First Dates and What to Do
So you’ve found the man or woman of your dreams and you’ve plucked up the courage to ask them out on a date. While it would be a wonderful world for the hard work to end there, dating can be much more complex, as most people have probably found out at some point in their lives.
We’ve all been there. You’re staring at each other and lost for words, not for lack of chemistry, but for lack of diligence when choosing what to do on your first date. Let’s face it, even dedicated couples of many years will struggle to find a good time if they’re doing something that they don’t enjoy.
If you’re looking for the perfect opportunity to get to know your date, follow the golden rule and keep it simple. That is, of course, unless you’re both oozing supreme confidence and open to learning about each other in a surreal environment. That works too. But if that’s the kind of man or woman you are, then I highly doubt these guides will be of relevance to you in the first place. Being spontaneous with your partner is one of the great traits of a successful relationship, but probably one of the easiest ways to scare your partner witless on the first date as well. Getting the mix right is crucial.
Remember that the idea of these early stages in your relationship is to build up a bond and explore the chemistry that you share. Whether that be achieved over a simple coffee at lunch or a quiet drink after work, simplicity is vital.
It’s always a good idea to keep that very first date nice and relaxed. You’re still feeling each other out, metaphorically speaking of course!
A trip to the movies is always a welcome opportunity to spend some time in each other’s company, without having to talk like motor mouths for the entire time. If that’s your first date of choice, do make sure to pick a suitable movie. Ladies – resist the chick flicks. And guys – saucy flicks probably aren’t your best option at this stage in the relationship! Pick a movie that you’re both going to enjoy. That’s why you’re there, right?
If you’re struggling to determine the perfect first location, it’s not illegal to ask your date for their input. Those early conversations may seem a little awkward, but try to work out a few shared interests. A first date doesn’t have to be a smooching canal ride in Venice. If you share a passion for music, look for upcoming concerts in your local area.
Always be aware of what’s going on around you. If you live in a city, or even if you don’t, you can usually find an upcoming event which will hold the interest long enough for you and your date to get to know each other. But above all else, keep things relaxed and don’t force the issue with romantic settings before you’ve shared your first proper conversation as potential lovers. There’s nothing wrong with patience.