Dealing with the Vanishing Date Act

There are several ways to interpret the situation if you don’t receive an expected call in the days following your first date. It’s our natural instinct to jump to the worst possible conclusion and suddenly lose sight of the date itself, no matter how well it went.

Do try to remember that there is an explanation for everything. Your date could very possibly lead a busy lifestyle and be run down in work commitments. If this is the case, he or she may not be around to call and arrange a further date or catch up.

If you go weeks without a call, you can safely assume that the relationship isn’t going to develop beyond the one date that you shared together. Don’t let it get you down and don’t take it as a personal insult. There are, after all, plenty of fish in that sea. Not every date is destined to be the birth of an everlasting union and not everybody is compatible with each other!

There are certain cases however where you’ve shared the perfect date and you just can’t keep that special somebody out of your mind. You can’t concentrate at work and your ears are permanently tilted towards the telephone in anticipation of a call. The simple solution is to pluck up the courage and do the calling yourself. But this can be a little hard if you’ve agreed beforehand that one person would make the phone call to initiate the next phase in your relationship. You don’t want to look desperate or come across as if you have nothing better to deal with, right? Truth be told, you have nothing to gain by taking that route either so what’s it going to be?

If you go days without a phone call and there are no messages on the answer phone, it’s your responsibility to decide whether the man or woman is worth the effort of chasing up. You have nothing to lose if you shared an enjoyable first date on the first time of asking.

That said, if you know the person through social means or at work, and they purposefully make the effort to avoid your every move, it doesn’t take a genius to work out what’s going on. The sad reality is that some people will put up a false smile despite the fact that they’ve already decided not to pursue a relationship. It can be misleading, but follow the tips and keep things relaxed. The worst you can expect is a polite “Thanks but no thanks”.